One of my favorite stories in the Bible is the story of Naomi and Ruth. Ruth's love and commitment to Naomi is clearly stated in:
Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God.
As an adoptive mom, I see the parallels of Ruth and Naomi's story being very similar to the struggles and emotions that we go through as an adoptive parent.
This song by Nicole Nordeman and Amy Grant titled: "I'm with you" tells the story beautifully.
As you listen to this song, I think you will see that you and your foster/adoptive child are actually on the same side. A line in this songs says: "falling on your hands and knees, trying to gather up my dreams trying to hold onto to anything". While at times it feels like we are opposing each other, we are each trying desperately in our own way to keep our hopes and dreams (individually and collectively) from slipping away.
While ours kids display behaviors and emotions that stem from their past, our hearts grieve for what they have experienced and felt.
It is clear in God's Word that He is near the brokenhearted.
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
This is promise that we can stand on!! God is near us and our children as we walk through this valley of healing. :)